12/11Being authentic

Scott had a rant about his wife's back condition and the insurance situation.

Mike Robert was triggered by Kirk based on a picture Scott posted where he is pitting frosting in his mouth. Kirk commented on Scott being able to take a big load.  Mike got triggered in the sense that he became aroused and he ended up acting out.

Kirk was welcomed to tell his story and why he feels like cracking sexual jokes all the time.

Then, Mike was invited to tell his story of performing oral sex on guys since he was 15. And so the image of the frosting , plus Kirk's comment triggered him.

I want to have a group where men can have real discussions bu telling what they really feel and then love each other (disrupt and repair).

We change emotionally and relationally.

At home we did not have repair.




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