First Group Meeting / Your Body Knows What your Brain Doesn't / 8-7-2025
Members: Scott Cone (leader), Mark Iske, Joseph, Jim, Kurt, Randy, JL Morejon
Welcome
Mathew 6: 9 - 13
9 “This, then, is how you should pray:
“‘Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name,
10 your kingdom come,
your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
11 Give us today our daily bread.
12 And forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
13 And lead us not into temptation,[a]
but deliver us from the evil one.[
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Introductions
Name, age
Where I am
Why am I here? (Support)
Color zone & number / Physiological sigh / (I am a green 5)
What do I expect to get out of the session?
Session
Joseph
urge to act out
What does it feel in your body to act out?
Where would you place the unpleasantness?
What would that feeling say? Jump out.
You are angry at the urge. He is angry this is coming back (the urge).
Your body knows what your body doesn't. (We have 4 brains).
Scott asks: Would like to try something out? Joseph says "yes."
Give an image of young Jospeph.
Where would you feel safe? Where would there be a place where you would feel safe now, Joseph?
Make a gesture that makes you connect with the boy. of trauma?
There are 5 developmental needs that help the child: safety, protection, attunement, comfort, soothing, express who he is, unconditional support and encouragement.
What would you say to Joey? [I will be there to protect you ] Joseph still feels anxiety.
Scott tells Joseph , "You need to approach it from the point of view of a christian man that has been saved; who is loved and forgiven."
Joseph: I am holding him, my younger self is crying; he is loved and protected.
Joseph feels better in his body.
Scott asks Joseph to tell the young Joseph who he is... "Could you give the boy your blessings and unconditional support?
Joseph: Joey, you are going to be alright. God is going to ...... (other affirmations).
Scott; Take a deep breath . Go to your feeling in your chest. How do you feel? (What happened?). You re-parented yourself.
You can continue to practice this and restructure your nervous system.
How empowered to you feel?
When you genuinely meet your needs you feel empowered.
We have 4 brains: gut, heart, right brain and left brain (All of them are part of the mind).
When is the first time you felt this intensity?
(fear in the gut and pressure in the heart), which creates fear, anger and confusion.
Joseph shares the incident in Mexico with a prostitute.
Scott: What do you feel in your body?
"I feel knots in my body.
What do you want?
Belong
What would you have to do to belong to your group then?
Have sex with the prostitute.
Summary
So, this was coercive sex. We see a theme in your developmental experiences where you are forced to have sex you don't want to have.
The trauma is not stored in the way you report (the trauma is stored in the way you felt it when being coerced sexually. When you find yourself in a situation like that of your developmental years (loneliness0 you may be triggered to act out sexually.; because you have some unresolved wounds (a trigger is a would from the past that has been activated in the present.
Scott: Which event is more intense for you?
When I was a child 7 - 8. She was 16.
How did you deal with the trauma?
I did not. So, there was no way to process(it was not available in your family). So it is still there, the trauma, in your body. This is felt when you are HTBS (hungry, tired, board, stressed). So, instead of feeling the emotion, you feel horny.
In Genesis says that is not good for the man to be alone, but we need to be independent.
In therapy, we go right where the trauma is coming from our childhood trauma, so we can change experientially, relationally and emotionally.
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Notes from Scott: This is the first time you have done this process with me. The goals were more connection, you felt more connected within you and with us and with each other, which is teh opposite of trauma and soothing and he expresses who he is with unemotional support and encouragement.
International family systems, going from the core (God), to the protectors (patch work)
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Kurt (Last minute question / Scott needed to go to celebrate his birthday!
He and his girlfriend have had emotional conversations. He was emotionally aroused and he was so hard that it hurt. Scott asked: What emotions activated the arousal (fear, sexual excitement, sadness)? Certain emotions you do not want to deal with become sexual arousal. Orgasm end up regulating your emotion. Homework for Kurt: Make a list of have had when you use masturbation to regulate.
Glossary
Patchwork: in this therapy, the therapist follows your lead, and invite you to connect dots, to challenge distorted thinking, and to build better boundaries (1). The actual hands on Patchwork therapy is a form of therapy that utilizes the creative process of creating patchwork to promote physical and mental well-being (2). More specifically, Patchwork therapy is a form of art therapy that involves creating a cohesive piece of art from disparate fragments, often using fabric, thread, and other textile materials (3).
Sources:
1. Therapy Services offered. https://www.patchwork-therapy.com/therapyservices
2. Patchwork Therapy: A Holistic Approach. https://www.numberanalytics.com/blog/patchwork-therapy-occupational-therapy-wellness#google_vignette
3. Patchwork Therapy: A Guide to Healing. https://www.numberanalytics.com/blog/patchwork-therapy-techniques-and-practices
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